What if.

How do you know when it's time to let go?

When it's been a week? A month? A year? Sure it will be different for everyone, but how do you know that you are supposed to let go? How do you know that God isn't trying to make you realize what you really want and trying to tell you to go for it? How do you know that God isn't telling you that you do need to stop and let go? Which one do you trust? Will you ever know for sure?

There's so many things people tell us to listen to. They say listen to your heart, trust your gut, what does your head tell you. What if each of those is a different answer? Now what? We go back to square one.

Whether you listen to your heart, trust your gut, or follow your head you will alway have a "what if…" Those "what if" moments can make you feel worse than you did the moment it happened.

Why can't we be okay with our answer? Why do we have to second guess or wonder how things could be different? It doesn't matter, not really. You have your answer, and no amount of "What if's" and "Maybe if I would have done this," could change that. Are we wrong to "What if" situations,? Absolutely not. When we "What if" situations, we try to look at what we can do better in the event we are in a similar situation in the future, at least thats what "What if" situations should be for. What is wrong is when we always look at how the situation was our fault and consistently blame ourselves. What is wrong is, for example, when you have a friend hurt you and you "What if" every thing you did to try and find out how it is your fault , what you could have done wrong, how did you offend her, or how you could have prevented it. What is wrong is when you have a guy you like who seemingly liked you back and he starts hitting on another girl when he thinks you're not looking and you "What if I had done this or that, then maybe he would be with me."

Here's a "What if" for you: "What if your friend hurting you, really has nothing to do with you and everything to do with her?" "What if that guy is just a douche?" If we sit here and try to figure out why this happened or why they did that, we are going to drive ourselves crazy. Maybe we will never understand, and that is okay.

Maybe we "What if" because we are always try to find the best in others. That is not a bad thing. We should always try to find the best in others, just make sure you are not finding the worst in yourself in the process.

Maybe we should start trying to find the best/good that we had in those relationships. The great times, memories, and experiences you shared with that friend. The exciting moments and warm and fuzzies that guy made you feel. Hold onto that instead of retracing your steps and blaming yourself. You are amazing and anyone would be lucky to have you in their life.